Here are some focuses that Kaia works with, as well as some resources for those wanting to learn more:
"Don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain." -Mate
There is a theory that addicts are self medicating their brains and body. In the world of neurobiology, we are seeing that drugs can influence and activate parts of the brain that an individual might not have developed in childhood. Unfortunately, many drugs change our brain chemistry so that we aren't able to be as happy as we could be. In therapy, it is important to have some education around addictions as well as some willingness to explore the wounds that may lie beneath. It is not the addicts fault and recovery is always possible.
If you are concerned that you are an addict or you are in recovery, here are some resources for you:
Marijuana's effect on the brain
Gabor Mate's video on brain development and addiction
Take the MAST or AUDIT to see if your alcohol use is problematic
Trauma happens when an emotional memory becomes stuck in the brain and we have a difficult time letting it go. Trauma is a reaction to an event that can either be subtle or major in the person's life. Part of therapy is to learn to manage the symptoms of trauma while learning to come to terms with what has happened to us. EFP has shown great promise for working with trauma in that it brings the person back to a non-verbal, emotional place and often allows the release of the trauma to emerge.
Relationships have the potential to bring out both the best and worst in us. There is a theory that we pick our partners because part of us knows that they can help us with our wounds. Couples therapy comes down to taking responsibility for your own emotions while acknowledging how you may affect your partner. Working on a challenged relationship can be frustrating, trying, as well as rewarding and healing.
Anxiety & Depression
There is a saying that dwelling in the future causes anxiety while dwelling in the past causes depression. Part of healing our anxieties and depressions is being in the moment and learning how to change our mindsets. Feeling anxious or depressed can be a lonely place and a sign that something needs to change in our lives.
Motherhood has its unique challenges of striving to be a healthy and balanced woman, and often on a timeline. Women regularly find themselves addressing traumas of their past, working to resolve marital issues, trying to receive support and create a world around them where they want to bring a child into.
Transitions and Rites of passage
Therapy can help us turn a page in our lives, end a chapter, or start a book. No matter the transition, there can always be some questions around going into the unknown. Did we make the right choice? Am I balancing my passion and my practicality? What will come from this, and is it time to turn another page?
Therapy for the Equestrian
"You can only work with your horse as well as you can work with your own mind."
This service is offered to clients who want to develop and understand their relationship to their horse as well as develop personally from the work with their horse. I focus on empowering the horse-person to use the relationship to understand themselves more fully and engage in a healthy relationship. We look into bonding style, how to provide emotional support to our horse, and how to work with challenges that arise. We work on congruency, authenticity, problem-solving, boundary making.
"If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” ~ Daniel Goleman